Things I'm not supposed to stress over

I get e-mails from all sorts of outlets all the time, this is one from BabyCenter and I just had to laugh at some of the things!!

Things I'm not supposed to stress over
(why didn't someone tell me these things earlier?!)

"Don't stress if you can't get everything done that you had planned each day. The baby won't know if the housework isn't done!" - the baby may not but the hubby sure does...if the house is not in perfect order then it's like the houses he goes into while at work...

"It's okay to tell co-workers that you're not interested in their advice. Every pregnancy is different."

"Remember, every problem has a solution, and confiding in someone who's close to you or who you think can offer help or support is a step forward. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner, OB, or midwife."

"Don't stress about how you look. You're performing a miracle — growing a person inside of you — and that's a fantastic accomplishment."

"If you trust your OB, let her do her job and follow her recommendations; if you don't, find a new doctor who you do trust. You should never be afraid to call your provider with big and small problems."

"Don't stress about tough times with your partner. A baby tests any couple's relationship." - oh I know!

"Don't stress about things like food or weight. Just be sensible. There's no need to give yourself an anxiety attack over the pint of ice cream you just finished. Take it as your special reward for everything you've accomplished so far in your pregnancy, and move on." - I'd like to think I'm doing pretty good, 4.5 lbs in 21 weeks :) Now I look like I swallowed a house but the weight gain isn't reflecting that!

"If you're doing everything in your power to make healthy choices, don't worry so much. Women have been having babies since well before we knew what to do and what not to do."

"Mothers-in-law don't know everything!"

"Don't stress too much about things in the environment you think might harm your baby, like standing too close to the microwave or pumping gas. Remember, the vast majority of babies are born healthy." - it's kinda nice though to have someone come up to you and do things for you so you don't get near those harmful environmental things

"Don't worry about labor. It is what it is. Just educate yourself on your options, and be ready to make informed decisions. Beyond that, just take a deep breath and go for it. It's not as bad as you think it'll be."

"Don't stress about how the baby is fending in the womb. It's a roll cage, but your baby is probably comfortable in there."

"Every little twinge doesn't mean something is wrong." - but it sure does make the doctor laugh when I call for every little thing!

"No matter what decisions you make, someone will always disagree. Try not to let the negative comments upset you, and if you're really worried about something, talk with your doctor or a nonjudgmental friend." - hormones make you very emotional, and even the pettiest of comments can break you down and it sucks!

"There's no such thing as a stupid question, especially for first-time mothers. Being pregnant and birthing a child are unique experiences, and a woman will never know what it's all about until she's actually done it herself." - I think my doctor finds it comical that I start every phone call question with "I know this is going to sound stupid but..." and she answers every one of them for me!

"It's okay if you don't have everything ready for your baby. Newborns don't need a whole lot in the beginning."

"When I accepted heartburn, back pain, lack of sleep, and moodiness as a normal part of pregnancy, they didn't seem to bother me as much anymore."

"If you're worried about being a good mom, you probably have nothing to worry about. My husband keeps telling me that bad mothers don't worry about whether or not they'll be good moms."

"I had never really been around children, and I made mistakes, but as long as you love your baby and are careful with the important stuff, you can't harm him or her with small mistakes. You'll soon get comfortable with the routine."

"Don't stress too much over all the "rules" pregnant women now have. A bath warmer than lukewarm won't lead to disaster. If you accidentally eat a soft cheese you're not sure is safe, there's no use worrying after the fact. Our mothers had fewer restrictions than we do, and we turned out fine."


There was something about these that did bring a sense of calmness to me, I do have a great support system but sometimes you do feel alone in all of this if someone is not going through the exact same thing at the exact same time. Sure you meet plenty of people who have been there before, but everyone is different. Reading these was like having someone inside my head and explaining everything to me, nicely...